virginity... is it overrated or crucial?

[lydia]

well folks..
looks like i LOVE controversial issues here... the last i put up was bout dating non Christians..

now...
as the title says...
VIRGINITY...

now, i may hv been v v v v influenced by the magazines i read n stuff...
and also by the teaching i've recieved...

some feel it don matter wat the partner has done in past cos if u accept the person, its a whole package and as long as the person is faithful to u in that relationship, virginity don really matter as much...
others think is serious enuf to warrant a complete reevaluation of the relationship...

i feel that if that happens then the issue should come out in the open b4 the relationship starts... but it may threaten the budding romance.. ya?...

and what happens if your non virgin partner is from a supposedly *Godly* background - parents are leaders in church... do you blame them or the parents for the situation at hand?...

thanks for your time people...
hope this topic will get the forums revved again..
-lydia

[derick]

Well, we are christians. God expect us to be different from others. He did tell us very clearly in the Bible itself that it is crucial for us to keep our virginity. If want to work for God it is alwiz better to be a virgin forever He said. But He knows that we are subjected to the temptation of the world. He said if you cannot resist yourself from having a relationship go ahead with it, But he told us to ensure that the relationship is valid and please to His eyes. Which means husband and wife relationships. Keep your virginity till you are married He said.

Now u think is it important or not to keep virginity till married. In God's eye purity is important.. What u think?

Be different.. Let us not indulge in the way of the world.. be it the Lords will in whatever we do.

[michelle_shia]

From the perspective of the world, VIRGINITY is nothing but a proud to lose it.

But how about Christians? Do we comform to the world? Isn't VIRGINITY important since God gave it to us and ask us to keep it until marriage?

[djun]

define virginity please...there seems to be so many meaning to it...so which meaning of virginity refers to this topic??

coz from what i know...we girls can actually lose it throught active sports activity...so?? mind clarying the meaning being used here??

[dewgem]

they are talking about virginity as in having sex la...not really physically as in the tearing of the hymen, but to keep pure in terms of sex.

[djun]

well...what i'm bout to confess here may be a shocking thing to most of you...but...i almost gave up my virginity to 2 non-believers...the temptation is really great...especially when both of you are just alone in the room....anything can happen...and recently..i read this book...it has this law of progression...it all starts from

--> being together & holding hands
--> simple goodnight kiss
--> prolonged kissing
--> necking
--> petting
--> heavy petting
--> mutual sex play
--> sexual intercourse

this is so true...experienced it for myself...and it's not nice at all i tell you...i never knew bout this...and my standards with guys were like..holding hands are acceptable, hugging is also ok...but NO..it's NOT ok...a small thing will lead to a bigger one. i thought that well...it's ok what if a guy and a girl inside the room alone doing assignment...it's for work sake after all....but NO...it's NOT ok...the situation may be heated up without you realising it...

what my mum told me the other night is so true...we teenagers/young adults are so open to temptation...we do not set limits at all...we think the limits that we set are ok...but until you are being tempted..you'd know that those limits must be changed to a stricter ones....

why am i telling this out?? i've had 2 friends who has gone through abortion...and it has somehow ruinned their life...i dont want to see any of my bro and sis in Christ to be in that situation at all...avoid it if possible...but even if you are pregnant...DONT ever do an abortion...can always come to me for help....but of course...GO TO GOD first...He will lead you...

okie..enough said...i pray that you peeps will continue to seek Him in your heart and follow His plans for you.... [/img]

[xiang2jian4]

erm...was shocked but Gladly to have you back at last...

but 1 little reminder...

Church is not a place to judge but a place to learn abt LOVE n FORGIVENESS...

every1 who come to church kno tat they are sinners...tat's y we need God...

i face some case that the members of church cannot accept some1 who undergo Abortion...then the somebody juz left the church...think deeply...

If Jesus was there...wat will happened?

aih...most of the churches now cannot b the salt n light to those ppl around them coz this issue...aih...

STOP BEING TAT JUDGEMENTAL okie?

u hv the insurance...u edi saved...dun make the others lose their chance to come back to God okie?

[djun]

yeah...not only with abortion...but even when someone dates a non-believer...we, the church, shouldnt judge both of them...but pray for their salvation...praying that the non-believer will find love and forgiveness there...what has become of the churches these days?

so...that's why...we, the cf...should have christian unity and reach out to those kind of people out there...starting in our campus...can we do that for God? next time any of you have a friend who's unwanted, no love, no care....bring them to cf...in fact...not only friends like that...but bring any friends to cf...believer or non-believer....

[xiang2jian4]

but then the problems come back to..
how to make the CF members be united?
most of them dun even come to meeting...
should we left them aside?
this year PJ's campus theme is DISCIPLESHIP n EVANGELISM...
how target is the cold CF members or the non-believers le?
nice questions...

[girllimpz]

i think we really need to pray for all the students in UTAR, be it christian or not. they are still welcome to join CF.

no, we should not leave them aside. we'll do more publicity on meetings and events. and i think we need to really go and invite them to CF.

P.U.S.H!

[jo-anne]

yeah...agree....continue to pray for all UTAR students.....

[dewgem]

i'm glad that all of us can see the same vision of God for the university. Let's pray and pray and pray and pray. Of coz, also continue to shine the light of Christ wherever we go =)

[xiang2jian4]

yup..hold everything with prayer...put everything on the altar...
b ensure tat we r walking on the correct path...

[blurchu?]

Ha!~

Interesting topic posted here.

I guess it goes without saying that one should be pure until the time of marriage and should only sleep with his/her spouse after marriage.

The thing is, if virginity isn't important in the first place, then why the heck do they have marriage in the first place? And what would separate us from actively-reproducetive animals?

And i think most of us are in the same topic about not having sexual intercourse, right? But we should always set our limits and not play with fire. A guy can put fire on his chest without burning himself, right?

That's all i have to say lah.

[Racheal]

bernard is rite... for without marriage, there is no sex...

God created sex for procreation and develop intimacy with one another specifically relegated sex to the arena of marriage. The kind of intimacy that God desires between a married couple cannot occur between one person and several others; it can only be experienced between one man and one woman.

The Bible says that when two people are married, they become one flesh (Ephesians 5:31). Sex is consummation of that union. When two people break off their relationship after having sex, it is like ripping apart flesh. This is why two persons will struggle so much and become so dependent on those they give their bodies to.

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